There are two keys to finding that perfect partner who you can actually have a real relationship with. The first key is to know exactly what you want to see in your other half. If you will not know what you want in your partner, how will you be able to find him/her? The second key is to be that partner. We all know that a relationship is a two-way process. If you want some traits to exist in your partner, then you need to develop those in yourself, too. This is because most of the time, you want your partner to be a reflection of all your hidden desires stored away in your subconscious for so long. We will cover both of these aspects in this article to help you find a better partner for you.
Be very sure of the fact that love is not enough to have a successful relationship.
There are other aspects which are more important and which actually keep the essence of love alive for a lifetime. First of all, you have to know what you need in a partner:
A relationship cannot work if both partners do not know how to compromise. When you are looking for a partner, the first thing that you need to observe is if he or she compromises on small things for you. When a person compromises, he or she actually sets aside their pride for you. This shows you that you partner is not egotistic and your happiness is more important for him or her.
Having self-control is a major aspect to look for, in a partner. Self-control means to prevent one’s self from falling for temptations. A person having a good amount of self-control will be above all those wishes and temptations that might destroy your relationship. Simply notice if he or she falls for the most obvious or even subtle flirting, or considers booze more important than you on a date night.
The most common reason for break-ups. Not getting enough attention from your partner? Well, it is time that you look for someone new. Noting the attention span is important because when you are dating someone, you are supposed to be the most important part of their life. If the person you are dating gives you all the attention in the world, just don’t let them go, ever.
You need to see if your partner actually wants to do something with his or her life or are they just wasting time. If you feel like that your partner is not goal-oriented and does not take his or her work and approach towards life seriously, then they will never take you, and the relationship, seriously. For them, life is just a joke and they will never have enough guts to make the next move.
Does your partner show delayed gratification or gets impatient over the smallest things? Patience is a significant aspect of a human being’s nature. If a person gets impatient over, say, a late bill when you are on a date or when the cars on the road won’t move, then this is one of the signs that they will get impatient with you and your habits, too.
Being goal-oriented is not enough. See that your partner makes an effort to achieve the goal that he or she has set for themselves. This will be indication that they will take a stand for you in the future, too. Try to know if you are among their plans for the future or not. If you are not, then ask them to what extent they want to keep you in their life.
Conscientiousness is the personality trait of being thorough, careful, or cautious.
This implies mostly to male partners because they lead the relationship, most of the time. Notice if your partner is vigilant, not only towards you, but also in other matters of life.
These are some of the things that need be there on your list when you are looking for a partner or to notice in your existing partner because that will help you determine if you should continue the relationship or not. These facts have been researched and proved by many psychologists around the world who work day and night to know more about the complexities of human nature and how humans carry out their inter-personal relationships. So, the next time you are dating someone, make sure you notice all of these things in your partner because these will definitely take you one step closer to finding that perfect person with whom you can spend the rest of your life with.
The other important factor in finding a better partner is to become the kind of person you want for yourself. Many people will not agree and consider it boring. It actually is not. People think that two partners who are alike bring monotony in a relationship. Being the kind of person you want your partner to be means that you adopt the kind of qualities you want to see in your partner. This will help you in explaining to your partner what you want to see in them.
Monotony comes when there is no spark in a relationship and having the same interests actually brings two people closer. So to become a perfect partner, in order to find your perfect partner, requires the following aspects:
When you are kind to your partner and show that you can handle everything with love, then they reciprocate it, always. Kindness is very important to maintain a healthy relationship. Imagine finding a very cute guy or girl around the street and they need some kind of help. You go up to them and help them by being kind and polite. That same kindness can touch their hearts and you may find that amazing partner in a blink of an eye just because you were kind to them.
We know how busy everyone is these days with work and studies and multiple tasks at hand at a time. But taking out time for yourself and your partner is very important. If you are the kind of person who knows how to manage their work and personal life, you are more inclined towards finding a better partner because you take out time to do that. So never forget that you need to let yourself loose a little and enjoy when you are supposed to, because everything you do takes you one step closer to the person you are going to spend your life or a very important part of life with.
Take care of yourself:
This is an obvious thing. If you will not take care of your health and appearance, how are you ever going to find a partner, let alone someone perfect? If you eat healthy and sleep enough, then no one can stop you from staying fit and beautiful. Exercise regularly and do not make yourself a slave of your work. These things are important to see in a partner, too. Does he or she take care of their health and fitness? Because if they do, then they value the fact that staying healthy is important and they will also take care of you when you need them.
Do not always be on the receiving end:
Sometimes, giving is more fun than receiving. Your partner will get bored soon if they realize that you just want their attention and love but are not ready to give it back. Same goes for your partner, too. If you feel like they just want and want from you and are not ready to return the same sentiments to you, then it is time to back off.
All you need from your partner is that smile at the end of the day that will make you forget all the worries and stresses of the day. If you stay positive and make every situation light, no matter how conflicting it is, then your partner will make sure that they become that beacon of love and hope for you that will shine your way till the end.
Being a positive person will eventually make everyone respect and value you and it will not be long before you find that perfect person who understands you like no one else.
Show gratitude to your partner and they will make a greater effort to make you happy. This is a proven fact and you can try it right now if this text does not convince you. Thanking your partner every now and then for doing the small things they do for you will make them happy and they will come to know that you notice and appreciate their efforts.
No one likes to be suffocated in a relationship. Even you will want your partner to understand the meaning and importance of giving you space and air to breathe once in a while when things feel crammy. So if you want your partner to let you have some of that precious time with yourself that you cherish so much, then reciprocate the gesture.
Know your partner’s needs:
And by needs, I mean the needs in bed. When you are dating someone and are close enough to share the same bed, then you need to understand what your partner likes and dislikes in bed. It is the time when you two are closest to each other and the connection between soul and body is the strongest. So try to understand what your partner likes and expects of you. Being understanding in this basic instinct of every human being enables you to connect with your partner and he or she might actually be the one that you were always looking for.
So if you are looking for a partner that has to be better than your ex, then do not forget to consider all of the above-mentioned points. First, make sure you know exactly what you want your partner to be like and then make just a few changes in your own personality to establish firm and long-lasting relationships.
Just getting love from someone is not always enough. You have to consider all of their aspects to actually make them your partner because at the end of the day, you did not come to this life to get wasted or used. So you have to be the most important person for yourself and only then can someone value you and understand what you want.
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