You’ve probably heard how the Law of Attraction can help you attract all your desires and wishes in life. But how come a lot of people who use it still can’t manifest the life of their dreams? The simple answer is that they’ve been doing one or more of the following…
One moment they’re manifesting a BMW, the next day they want a Cadillac. This only serves to confuse the universe and weakens your ability to manifest your desires.
Fix It: Before you begin to manifest anything, know exactly what you want. Write down a checklist of your desires. Go through your checklist and select only your heart’s deepest desires. Once you know exactly what you want, don’t change it unless it’s really necessary to do so.
Mistake # 2: They Resist Their Current Reality.
They can’t accept what is happening to them now. They’re impatient and want immediate satisfaction. They feel bad about not having what they want at this moment.
Fix It: Appreciate what you have right now. Dream big and do your manifesting rituals, but be patient and don’t feel desperate to attain what you want. It will come at the right time. Let the universe decide the “how” and “when” you will get it.
Mistake # 3: They Got It The Other Way Around.
To attract your desires, you must think and feel good. But most people tend to wait for good things to happen before they think and feel positive; hence they’re attracting more of their negative thoughts and emotions.
Fix It: Think and feel good now. Anytime something negative comes across your mind, immediately and consciously stop your train of thought, then think of a blessing in your life that you’re really thankful for. Then say, “I choose to think and feel good now.”
Mistake # 4: They’re Doing Their Affirmations Wrong.
I once met an overweight person who believes in the law of attraction but can’t get lean by saying these affirmations most of the time: “I’m not fat.” “I will be sexy.” “I eat healthy foods.”
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Fix It: For an affirmation to work, it must be positive, stated in the present tense, brief, and must also feel right. “I’m not fat” is stated in the negative. “I will be sexy” is stated in the future tense (plus she has the limiting belief that she can’t get fit). As for “I eat healthy foods,” I found that she doesn’t feel comfortable saying it because she simply can’t resist junk foods no matter how much she tried.
An effective affirmation would go something like: “I choose to be sexy.” It’s positive, stated in the present, brief, and doesn’t go against any limiting belief because she’s not saying she’s sexy, but only “chooses” to be. And of course, she has to commit to living a healthy lifestyle. One way is to weigh the “pros” and “cons” of each action she will take.
Mistake # 5: They Make Excuses or Blame Others.
When something goes wrong or didn’t turn out well… they either blame other people and/or their surroundings, or they think of all kinds of excuses ranging from having no time to having too much responsibilities to just not being lucky enough.
Fix It: Take responsibility for your life. If you blame or make excuses, you’re giving your power away. But the moment you claim that you’re responsible for everything that is happening to you, you assert to the universe that you’re in control of your destiny and that you can turn whatever you want into reality… no matter what happens.
Mistake # 6: They Don’t Take Action.
They just wish and hope… but don’t actually DO the necessary things that will propel them towards their goals.
Fix It. There are 2 kinds of action you must take.
First, act the part. If you want to become a millionaire, do the things that they do – test drive your dream car, tour around the best homes, visit a five-star hotel, etc. You’ve got to move like the person you want to become. Walk, talk, dress, and behave like a wealthy person. Mingle with rich and successful people every chance you get.
The second type of action is inspired action. This is where you listen to your “inner voice” and act on the synchronicities and “lucky” events that you’re attracting into your life. Do you have a gut feeling to call someone? Did you get a job offer from a long lost friend? Do you have the urge to buy a book about a topic you’re interested in? ACT on it immediately!
Mistake # 7: Their Desire Is Not Congruent With Their Values.
You won’t get lean if you value the pleasure of buffet eating. You won’t get rich if you value spending a lot of time with your happy-go-lucky friends.
Fix It: Write down your most important values, then compare them with your goals and desires to see if there is any conflict existing between them. If there is, realize that it would be much more difficult for you to manifest your desires and you’d be better off changing them into something that’s congruent with your values.
Mistake # 8: They Don’t Do It Often Enough.
They visualize or say their affirmations only when they remember or “feel” like doing it. They are not consistent with their manfesting rituals.
Fix It: Repetition is key. You have to visualize, say your affirmations, and do your other manifesting rituals everyday. The best times are immediately after waking up and right before going to sleep. But you can do it also when you’re waiting in line, washing the dishes, brushing your teeth, taking a bath, and just about any suitable chance you got.
Mistake # 9: They Don’t Give Much.
Most people don’t realize that you attract more of something by giving it away.
Fix It: If you want more love, give love. If you want more friends, be a friend to everyone. If you want to get rich, donate a certain portion of your savings to the less fortunate. If you want to become fit, teach and help others how to do it. What you give away will come back to you exponentially.
Mistake # 10: They Reject Their Blessings.
They ask for their dream career, but when they get a job offer they reject it because it’s not what they have manifested. What they don’t know is that this job could be the stepping stone to their dream job. Or they could meet someone who could help them achieve their goals.
Fix It: Even if you think it’s not what you’ve intended to attract, it could lead you to your ultimate desire. So accept it and be grateful. The universe knows what’s best for you, so just trust it and let it guide you to the attainment of your desire in its own special and sometimes less-familiar ways.
Fix your law of attraction mistakes now (if you’re making them), and you’ll be manifesting your desires faster and more effectively than ever before.
Mistake # 11: They Are Too Specific.
They make their affirmations or intentions too specific to the point that they don’t feel good about it.
Fix It: Yes, a specific intention or affirmation is effective, but only to the point that you feel good about it. If it doesn’t make you feel good or comfortable in any way, make it a little more general. Still doesn’t feel right? Make it a little more general again. Do this until you feel no conflict arising within you.
For example, you say that you want a loving spouse with blue eyes, lean body, thin lips and drives a Porsche. If it feels right for you, then you’re on the right track. But for most people, a statement this specific might conjure the feeling they’re not worthy or it’s very unlikely to happen. If this is the case, make it more general. How about a financially stable and attractive spouse who understands your needs?
There’s no right or wrong here. Your yardstick is the way you feel. The better you feel about your statement, the more chances they will manifest into reality.
Mistake # 12: They Think About the ABSENCE Of What They Want.
They often think about what they want; but the more they think about it, the more they feel negative emotions because they realize it’s not yet in their current reality.
Fix It: Think about what you want in a state of fun and appreciation. Release the pressure that you should have it or your life would be miserable. Decrease resistance by letting it go and just say, “wouldn’t it be nice if I own that house (or other things)?” or “wouldn’t it be great if I become the president of this company?” Be playful and have fun with it. The more you practice this routine, the less resistant you will be to the attraction of your desires.
Mistake # 13: Their Dream Is Too Big To Be Believed In.
If a person making $3000 a month dreams of making $100,000 a month, it would be much more diffcult for him to achieve it because of cognitive dissonance. His mind doesn’t yet believe that he can achieve it.
Fix It: Take it one step at a time. In the example above, if he makes a goal of $5000 a month first (instead of $100,000), he will be more likely to achieve it because it is much more believable. And once he reaches that goal, it will boost his belief that he can make more… but only to the point in which he believes he can. So he could set up a higher goal of $10,000 this time. And once he attains it, he could raise it a little higher again.
Mistake # 14: They Get Stuck In A Negative Environment.
They may pray fervently, say their affirmations, or visualize all day; but they will never attract what they want because they live with negative thinkers, blamers or complainers… or because their surroundings reflect doom and gloom aspects that make them feel bad.
Fix It: The one vital component to manifesting your desires is to feel good. And you can never feel good (or will have an extremely difficult time doing it) if you live around negatve people or in a negative environment.
If you’re really serious to make the Law of Attraction work, you must avoid them like the plague. Stay away from people who make you feel depressed, guilty or angry. Switch jobs or live in another place if you have to.
If this is not possible with your current situation, then read my other article “10 Ways To Stay Positive And Happy In The Face Of Negativity” so you can minimize the damage being done by these negativities.
Mistake # 15: They Don’t Have A Big Enough “Why.”
They say they want to have this or become that; but when you ask them why, they’re totally clueless. This lack of clarity translates to a weaker manifesting power.
Fix It: Your “why” is the foundation of your desires. When you know why you want it, you will do almost anything to achieve it and you will most likely stick to your goals/rituals.
Mistake # 16: They’re Too Busy To Relax.
They call themselves “action takers” so they don’t want to waste time relaxing. What they don’t know is that being in a state of relaxation can put them in a better state of alignment or higher vibration… which translates to more powerful manifesting.
Fix It: Find some quiet time when you can meditate even for just 10 minutes. Focus on your breathing and when a thought comes, put your focus back to your breathing. This state of “no-mind” will help you reduce resistance.
Another great idea is to take a nap, or simply find some quiet time to bask in appreciation for all the wonderful things around you.
Mistake # 17: They Give “Negative” Attention To The Smallest Things.
When their child cries, they feel irritated. When there’s traffic, they feel frustrated. Everytime they feel negative emotion, they put themselves out of alignment with the Universe.
Fix It: Ignore the small stuff and just let it go. Even if you think it’s a big issue, you have the choice of treating it like any other small stuff. And here’s the big secret… everything is small stuff. So break free from every single thing that annoys you, move on, and focus on your desires.
Mistake # 18: They’re Not Careful With Their Words.
They use negative words in their everyday language without being aware that such statements are affecting their vibration. Statements such as “I’m so hungry I could die any minute now” or “That’s sick” may sound innocent for some, but the ‘essence’ of these words could get picked up by the subconscious, which may affect their vibration negatively.
Fix It: Always be aware of what you’re saying at any given moment, for they also affect your thoughts and feelings. Remember that words carry certain vibrations with them, so practice replacing negative words with positive ones (that make you feel good and think good thoughts) in your everyday language.
Mistake # 19: They See The “Dark Side” Of Everything.
When they lose their job, they regard it as the end of the world. On the other hand, even if they get promoted, they dread the bigger responsibilities coming ahead instead of the exciting challenges this might offer. .
And this applies to even the smallest aspects of their lives. When they travel anywhere, they don’t see the beautiful scenaries and appreciate the wonderful journey; they see the bumps on the road, the traffic, or the cost of the trip.
This constant bombarding of negative feelings and vibrations will only bring them more of the things they’re complaining about, which will only make them feel worse and worse.
Fix It: Find the positive side in everything, even in those things and situations that may seem negative. If you lose your job, see it as an opportunity to get a better career. If you live alone, see it as an opportunity to be free and do whatever you want. Or if you live with people who give you a hard time, see it as a chance to develop your character as well as theirs. By giving out positive vibrations through your outlook in life, you’ll start attracting more of the things that you like.
Mistake # 20: They Don’t Improve Themselves.
They stay in their comfort zone. They are not motivated to improve their way of thinking, feeling, or attitude. Hence, they’re stuck in a rut.
Fix It: You will always remain in the same condition if you stay in the same vibrational frequency. To see changes in your life, you must aim for continuous improvement – in your thoughts, feelings, attitude, behavior, action, knowledge, the way you see things, and even your response/reaction to every situation. It doesn’t need to be a drastic one-time improvement. Aim to improve in one tiny aspect everyday, and after a few years, you would have become a much better manifestor in every way.
Go through the list once again and find out if you’re making any of these law of attraction mistakes. If you are, fix it immediately and be the powerful attractor you’re meant to be.